I will be yours in times of plenty and in times
of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in
times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph.
So a couple of
weeks ago I coordinated a vow renewal ceremony for a couple that has been
married for 25 years. As I watched them recite non traditional vows from the
heart, I realized that couples should review and renew their vows after a
while. Listening to them express their love for one another 25 years later you
could tell that they were speaking from the heart and from past experience.
They had been through good times, bad times, hard times, fun times, deaths,
births, financial ups and financial downs. This was not like the first
time when you get married.
You repeat the vows:
"I, [name], take you [name], to be my
[husband/wife], to have and to hold from this day forward; for better or for
worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health; to love and to
cherish from this day forward until death do us part."
Majority of
the time you have not experienced worse, poorer, or sickness. You repeat those
words with the hopes of never experiencing the bad part. But we know
that the bad comes with the good. We love our spouse. We will endure
with them. We will support them. Sometimes, we will even suffer with them.
When they hurt, you hurt.
So think
back 10, 15, 20, 30 years ago when you stood at that altar repeating
those vows...now imagine saying them again on Saturday, December 26,
2015. What would you say? Would you add in some words? Would you thank your
spouse for being there for you? Would you thank them for being an
awesome dad/mom? Would those vows mean a little bit more now since time
has gone by?
My husband and
I will celebrate 12 years in January. We have been through the better and
worse. The poorer (still working on the 'richer' LOL). We have been
through the sickness. I honestly do cherish him more than I did 12 years ago.
He has lived up to those vows and he has shown me what they look
like.
I truly believe
that love is a verb!
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